tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2071839274179654926.post2772662254894260913..comments2023-04-28T02:42:49.338-07:00Comments on Words Paint: Down, Up, DownPeacefulBirdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09115778928757133796noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2071839274179654926.post-48473313956245734102011-09-18T21:30:25.345-07:002011-09-18T21:30:25.345-07:00I'm with Sweetpea, I rarely comment on other p...I'm with Sweetpea, I rarely comment on other people's relationships, both because I'm not inside them and because I spent far too long in an abusive relationship myself to ever judge anyone else. I want for you what I have now - a man who doesn't think I'm boring when I bead every night after work (and any other time I can), an artist who supports the artist in me, a non-critical mate. Know that you are greatly loved and respected, Robin. Wish I was closer and could give you a hug.Peggyhttp://peggyinparadise.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2071839274179654926.post-28400650918096139442011-09-16T10:02:52.555-07:002011-09-16T10:02:52.555-07:00Just checking in here, PB, after lots of time not ...Just checking in here, PB, after lots of time not blog-hopping in my usual way. Personally, I am quite loathe to ever make suggestions regarding the marriages of other persons but the thought that came to me after reading your last two posts was SO LOUD, I am going to spill it...I think I would prefer to be utterly, totally abandoned, left to my own devices and my own singularities than to remain somewhere where I was so emotionally abused.Sweetpeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08000313813136860758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2071839274179654926.post-13854190804724210882011-09-15T16:31:43.492-07:002011-09-15T16:31:43.492-07:00Interesting list, as others have said. Well, the t...Interesting list, as others have said. Well, the two of you lived for many, many years without each other, and without being married. And, being strong and independent, you got along just fine. What <i>would</i> happen if you "abandoned" each other? Looking at boundaries seems like an excellent idea, especially in that boundaries <i>include</i> as well as <i>exclude.</i> Relationships are nothing if not complex. I wish you both good luck and success in figuring yours out.Lois2037https://www.blogger.com/profile/04776736493772592187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2071839274179654926.post-56651964521473439732011-09-15T12:31:31.969-07:002011-09-15T12:31:31.969-07:00A very interesting list, and an interesting insigh...A very interesting list, and an interesting insight that you both probably feel abandoned. I wonder if those who have been abandoned sometimes abandon others. Could focusing on abandonment rather than looking at ways one has been supported be similar to looking at negativity rather than making a gratitude list? Lots to consider in this post. DBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2071839274179654926.post-40561009715522900522011-09-15T04:25:55.319-07:002011-09-15T04:25:55.319-07:00It is a serious list of fears and some of them see...It is a serious list of fears and some of them seem conflicting.<br /><br />You say you are not capable of maintaining a healthy marriage. How do you define a healthy marriage?<br /><br />You also say you don't know how to get what you need and want in this marriage. Do you know what you want and need in this marriage? Does your husband know? And do you know what your husband wants and needs in this marriage?coral-seashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08876196936807771078noreply@blogger.com