I've owned my own business for more than 25 years... never wrote out goals. For the 10 years before that, I worked as a department manager for an expanding company... hated goal writing, procrastinated, delegated, produced only the briefest goal reports.
To the best of my memory, I've never written a list of personal goals.
So, when the end of the year rolls around, and I start feeling peer pressure to set some goals, I go right to the kitchen, seeking solace in food. Why?
Ten Possible Reasons for Not Wanting to Set Goals:
- Fear of failure. Fear of failure. Fear of failure. (Do I make my point?)
- Not wanting to be controlled, even by my own stated goals.
- Love of an improvisational life style. Desire to be free to follow my nose at any given time in any given direction. Impulsive personality?
- Lack of training and/or experience with how to write realistic goals.
- Dislike pressure.
- Feeling of irreversibility involving this type of list. This point has to do with a preconceived notion about what goal setting "should" be.
- Could there be something in childhood? Some "lesson" that setting goals is asking to be "thwarted?" Maybe.
- Could I have learned from my mother that setting goals results in disappointment?
- The farther out the goals (as in setting a 5-year or 10-year plan), the more angst I feel about it. Is this a trust issue? Do I not trust anything about the future?
- If there's a 10th reason, I'm blocking it...
Guess I just need to count my blessings and stay out of the kitchen during the week right around Jan. 1st. That's a commitment!
Thanks to my visitors for your comments on my 2 previous posts. I'm totally blown away that I've had any visitors at all after not writing for so many months. I'd love to hear your thoughts about goal setting.